13 Ways Men Protect their Wives

If you were traveling and you missed your way, I guess the reasonable thing to do would be to pull out a map and locate yourself, or to ask around. Then you can reconnect to your destination. Are you preparing for the journey of marriage or have you lost your way in it (have dashed dreams)? We would consider a map pointing us to marital bliss from the Relationship Manual, the Bible. In Genesis 2:15, we read:

Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to tend and keep it (NKJV).

For our purpose here, a wife is the garden given to the care and keeping of the husband. A garden produces for the keeper if well cultivated and kept. Some requirements include suitable environment, adequate nourishment, and keeping out pests and diseases. What are these pests and diseases of marriage and how should a husband keep or protect his wife?

A husband protects his wife by:

1. Being a man and accepting his responsibility to protect her.

2. Not insulting or talking down on her in public or private

3. Respecting and not beating or abusing her because she is of inestimable value.

4. Letting his family understand very early in marriage that he values her and the sacredness of the union.

5. Making the rules clear to live-in relatives and not having her do so. She is then empowered to enforce them.

6. Not allowing her submit to cultural requirements that dehumanize her.

7. Making her feel secure. After all, she left the security and provision of her father and mother to team up with you.

8. Letting your words, attitude and actions reflect she belongs here now. This is her home and together you are building a new family as did your father and mother.

9. Making a will that ensures she would be provided for should you go to be with the Lord earlier than her.

10. Acquiring property in her name or both of your names.

11. Not being secretive but confiding in her.

12. Knowing her, understanding her challenges and fears and following up with meeting those needs as much as you can.

13. Talking with her, saying nice things to her, appreciating her and not letting her be tempted by some other man who does these things at your neglect.

These are just some thoughts to start you thinking and adjusting. In parting, please remember that you are the King and your wife is the Queen. She is tender but you are tough by design in order that you will complement each other. She provides the softness you lack and your strength is meant for her protection. It is in your best interest to tend and protect the garden of your love!

By Pastor Chukwuma Ahiakwo,
President, Men of Excellence,
Sure Word Assembly, Lagos Nigeria.